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You know, it’s constantly bothersome how the primary source of prejudice in Transmisogyny is the inability of the vast majority of cis people to see trans-women as anything other than purely sexual objects.

For the most trans-women, the mere act of existing in a space is considered as a sexual action by the majority of cis people around them. A trans woman (especially if she’s not-white) doing something as mundane as walking down the street or checking into a hotel room can be detained by police under suspicion of prostitution (having any condoms on her person will even be used as evidence against her). There’s the narrative that trans women shouldn’t be allowed in public restrooms because people think that they would only do so to sexually assault or harass cis women or children.

There’s the idea that the entire purpose behind transitioning was to trick innocent cis people into having sex with someone that’s secretly a man. Mind you, almost no trans woman would do this for the simple fact that it’s a quick way to get murdered; and this narrative is also played up in the defense of cis-people that do murder trans women in the “Trans-Panic” defense which is completely legal in 48/50 states in the US.

Then there are those that attribute value on trans women based on how fuckable they perceive us to be. Some people see trans women as freaky beings that straddle the line of the defined binary in appearance and due to their personal lack of attraction to us see us as not worth treating as human. Or those whom believe that their finding us fuckable is the goal and that simply saying “Hey, I’d totally have sex with you.” is what we want every cis person to say. But these people still operate view us as purely sexual individuals without and other facets of worth to our lives.

And then there are those that see our transitions as a sort of extreme masturbatory fetish. As if the entire goal of it was some sexual self-gratification. That the whole thing was to take our bodies and change and dress them in a way to get ourselves off with an autogynophilic pleasure.

A couple days ago I came across a post that was a screenshot of a post made by a man. The post was a man comparing a picture of a trans woman that fell in to conventional standards of beauty, to a picture of a TERF whom deviated greatly from those same standards. The man then wrote a caption saying “No wonder TERFs hate trans women.” The implication that trans women are fuckable (and therefore good) while TERFs are not (and therefore bad). A separate TERF had then taken this as a whole and left a comment claiming that the man’s comments of finding trans women fuckable (and therefore good), was proof that trans women were accepted by the systems of the patriarchy and therefore not only not oppressed but an example of trans women’s supposed true goal of being thought of as fuckable whether by men, women, or both. Now they’re both completely off-base because again some random dude telling me he’d like to fuck me is no comfort (and actually rather creepy) and it’s no indication of viewing me as a person, and the TERFs wrong because her statement is almost the same as saying a woman who gets catcalled is less oppressed than a woman a man decides isn’t pretty enough to catcall.

The thing that all of those kind of cis people above don’t understand, is that being a trans woman has nothing to do with any of that, at all. All of those assumptions hinge on the exclusion of the concept that trans women have any personal identity outside of our sexuality. The fact of the matter is that our goals as trans women begin and end with 1)Being comfortable in our own skin. 2)Being able to do so while being treated as human. 3)Living a happy, multi-faceted life. The listed cis people don’t comprehend that simple fact, and until society at large does, transmisogyny will continue to widely persist.

Bringing this back for a spell.