anyway y’all have no problem when gay men doing drag use she/her but as soon as lesbians use he/him it’s suddenly a problem and a huge contradiction
realise that gender is part and parcel of heterosexuality and so lesbians necessarily navigate gender entirely differently than straight women
i think the “lesbians can’t use he/him” is absolutely implicit in wanting to keep us in a womanhood defined and ruled by heterosexuality. once we start to display us doing gender for ourselves, challenging and living with toxic heterosexual femininity: he/him lesbians, butches, etc. that’s when it gets out of hand for y’all
lesbians rejecting a womanhood that ties them to men because of gender, because of heterosexuality is not a bad thing, it’s not a contradiction, it makes perfect sense.
the policing of he/him lesbians is ironically completely bound up in misogyny: an anxiety to let lesbians do what they want and not consider men/heterosexuality and do gender on their own in their own way
same goes for the weirdness a lot of people have about “lesbians can’t be nb”
like lol yes they can
the move to always try and tie lesbians back on to a strict defined sense of womanhood makes lesbians parsable as Women in a purely heterosexual conception
if lesbians can’t be easily understood as women, then the male gaze can’t fetishise us, objectify us, make us two girls kissing for the pleasure of men. it’s a way of escape & of dealing with gendered trauma & of enacting subjectivity
lesbians know what they’re doing, leave us alone
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