do all the jeff goldblum stans realize that he’s on his third wife and she’s literally half his age
Half his age, as in she was born in 1983 making her 35 years old and an adult with adult agency and life experiences to balance out the inexperience and power dynamics that make age gap relationships questionable at best and predatory at worst?
Like I get where you’re coming from, a lot of the time there is good reason to side-eye wide age gap relationships. But there’s also sometimes nuance, like the fact that they met and got engaged when she was 31, and as near as I can find from a quick google search, his other marriages although having ended, did not end for awful or violent reasons. Sometimes people just realize they made a mistake or their needs change, and they are allowed to do things to rectify them, like responsibly end a marriage for the sake of those involved rather than continue torturing each other.
Also if the objection is to how many times he’s been married, his second wife
Geena Davis (also in her 30s when she married him)
has been married four times. Is that unacceptable too?
I’m not trying to be hostile and I don’t particularly care about him either way. This just seems like such vague phrasing designed to provoke an inflammatory response and I can’t seem to find any receipts to back it up other than the fact that he has indeed been married three times, married a younger woman in her 30s, has a son with her, and has talked openly about how they go to couples therapy to deal with their shit, which is actually, if you think about it, a very healthy thing to do.
And for what it’s worth, his first wife
Patricia Gaul was born in 1945 making him the younger of the two (1952), but
making them of comparable and compatible ages when they got married to each other in
their 30s. Like I’m just not seeing the behavior or someone here who is a
repeat offender of chasing after vulnerable young women in the same way say, Drake is blatantly grooming a 14 year old girl.
OP: Would you, maybe, consider letting women in their 30s make their own life decisions? I promise we’re capable. Really. We’re able to have our own jobs, raise our own children – and choose our own partners. Even if they’re older than us. We don’t need your – or anybody’s – protection or permission. Don’t infantilise gown women, how about it.
It’s not creepy or predatory to be attracted to women in their 30s, don’t be ridiculous, guys. And have you ever considered that some people are interested in older people? It’s entirely possible.
(Excuse me, I’m going to look at pictures of Clint Eastwood’s newest movie now. I’m 36, he’s 89, and I couldn’t care less.)
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It’s always fascinating when misogynists get mad when their misogyny is pointed out
people: *are rightfully annoyed with op for infantilizing women*
op, covering their ears: why’re y’all so obsessed with this celebrity and willing to kiss his ass and defend him against my imaginary controversy!
Op: what do you MEAN I can’t say whatever I want about adult women? Why can’t I just imply that grown women are victims who are too stupid to make their own decisions?????
at least they didn’t call it pedophilia?
Small blessings
Yes, definitely very small blessings. Because just “half his age” is vague enough to make people go “oh eewww” and liken it to pedophilia, while if they’d said “he’s 65 and she’s 35,” there’d be less of a knee-jerk reaction.
Hell, I even saw the difference in my own reaction. I read the OP and kinda went “oh no, that’s… sketchy,” because I didn’t really think about the ages of the people. But learning that the younger party is in her mid-30s made a huge change in my reaction because it didn’t try to kick up that knee-jerk emotion like OP’s statement did.
Internet discourse, because it happens much more slowly than face-to-face conversation and has more of a chance to go back and edit before it’s posted, is much more prone to having manipulative language used to evoke emotional reaction (not to say that there aren’t people who do this face-to-face as well, just that it takes much more practice and skill to do on the fly, and so it’s not as common).
So no, OP didn’t call it pedophilia. But the language used – intentionally or not – definitely makes people end up thinking predatory creepiness because of a knee-jerk emotion evoked by the vagueness of said language.
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