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What Happens When A Country Bans Spanking?

Now a new study looking at 400,000 youths from 88 countries around the world suggests such bans are making a difference in reducing youth violence. It marks the first systematic assessment of whether an association exists between a ban on corporal punishment and the frequency in which adolescents get into fights. 

[F]or both boys and girls, [prof. Elizabeth Gershoff] said, “We found [spanking] linked to more aggression, more delinquent behavior, more mental health problems, worse relationships with parents, and putting the children at higher risk for physical abuse from their parents.”

“People often ask: Why didn’t you look for positive aspects?” she continued. “My answer is: We did, and there were none. We see consistently that the more children are spanked, the more behavioral problems they have in the years ahead.”

I beg to differ

True, spanking children could easily go to the abusive aspect if not done right by parents with no understanding of how to properly do it, but trust me when I say it can help a lot to educate children. Take it from me who’s parents spanked me with a wooden ruler since I started to consciously disobey their orders. They never once spanked me in front of people nor do it when they were angry. They always waited until we were at home and we would go to our room where I would sit by their side and listen to the reason I was being spanked why it was wrong. Never once they spanked me without hearing my side of the story. I would get three hits in my butt if I didn’t resist and four to five if I was rebelling. And you know what? I’m thankful to my parents because I grew up to be a woman that respects people, regardless of their context and a woman that knows the importance of authority. Never once did I held a grudge against my parents because deep down, they taught me to question my actions whether they were right or wrong and do something about it. They stopped spanking me when I grew into a teen, but they still talked to me the same way whenever I did something wrong. It really helps you be humbled down and accept when people tell you you’re wrong.

And as a bonus, I’ve seen that families with little children that are spanked the way I was are more obedient, kind, and respectful than those children who aren’t.

Maybe my parents are the exception of good management of spanking, but if we educate children how to correctly punish bad behaviour, there’s a smaller chance they will grow aggressive or abusive.

I’m sorry your parents hit you, and I’m not here to tell you how you are supposed to feel about that. But your personal experience doesn’t disprove peer reviewed scientific studies.