i kinda feel terrible because my 30th birthday is coming up and i still live with my parents? and eveyrthing i see around here is how its ok to do that but only if youre struggling with an illness, be it mental or chronic and that makes total sense but also makes me feel like the biggest loser out there because im fine and yet i cant get a job that allows me to live on my own so now i guess im super useless? idk what im looking for but ur my age and super smart so i wanted to unload. sorry

livebloggingmydescentintomadness:

Hey dear, I’m really sorry this is such a late answer but I hope you still see it.

You are not a loser, honey. This economy is rough as all fuck, and you are definitely not the only 30 year old who can’t find a job that will allow them to live independently. That’s not your failure, that’s capitalism and a corrupt government conspiring to refuse millenials a living wage. With things the way they are, a LOT of young people are forced to live with their parents, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Look, you think I’m super smart? Lots of people would probably call me a loser too. I was homeschooled and had to finish high school online, but because I got sick that took me until I was 21. I haven’t done any college at all. I’ve never had a paying job. I have no income. I live with my mom, I’m dependent on the money of my extended family, and I spend most of my time bedbound with fatigue and pain. 

Yet somehow, a not insignificant number of people on the internet seem to think that I have something to offer. Objectively, you’re a lot further ahead than I am, aren’t you? Sure, you haven’t reached the level of independence you want to achieve, but you’re not half the conventionally-seen “loser” that I am, and you think I’m worth talking to. That means you’re absolutely worthwhile, and a lot more successful than you realize.

Losers are people who don’t give a shit about anyone but themselves and don’t care about bettering their lives in any way. If you’re trying, you’re not a loser. If you care about others, you’re not a loser.

Keep going, dear. Things will change.