Cannot recommend WDHDT highly enough. I’ve found it helpful not just for romantic relationships, but also for growing up w a “unexplainable/uncontrollable” dad.
IT HAS ALSO BEEN REALLY HELPFUL FOR UNDERSTANDING ONLINE MOB HARASSMENT.
So if you’ve ever been bombarded w threats to be raped/killed, (so…if you’re a minority and you’ve been on the Internet for a while), this book might be useful for getting clarity around the whole entitled, abusive mindset that drives certain kinds of people to behave that way. And by “getting clarity”, I mean (for me) being able to go “oh, that’s what’s happening” and not really feel scared anymore. Or angry, or drawn out into it, or anything.
And if you’re still standing around going “but how does something like GamerGate happen?” or “but why do men hit their wives?” or whatever – please read that book and learn something.
^^^^ truth WDHDT is fantastic at cutting down MRA bullshit and calling it what it really is
Please consider reading these. WDHDT is really, really helpful. And I know some of you are struggling with abusive relationships, friendships, families, etc. You’re not alone. There is help.
Yo. This family holiday, please, please take care of yourself. You aren’t there to be anybody else’s cushion.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
Reading any of these books does not mean you don’t love your parents or family. It’s just self care for helping you cope and not repeat the behaviors.
problem: once lup gets her body back taako needs to sleep next to his sister but also barry hasn’t slept beside his gf/wife in 12 years
solution: lup sleeps in the middle with taako and barry on either side (this is actually pretty standard from the stolen century; after a couple decades everyone was close enough to sleep in the same bed if need be/if they’re lonely)
problem #2: taako and kravitz also want to sleep next to each other
solution: four person twin sandwich. barry and kravitz don’t know each other super well yet so it’s a little awkward but this is basically par for the relationship course of dating lup and taako respectively
problem #3: kravitz now has to explain the receipt for a double king size bed to his boss/mom, the raven queen
someone who doesn’t watch star trek explain what’s happening here
, Ok, so I know a lot of yall out there are fresh to adulting, and actually going to the grocery store is like….a lot. I remember just kinda….wandering around grabing random stuff and ending up with a lot of junk at the end and no real meals.
So here’s a basic guide of how to do it.
1. Start your list with stuff that doesn’t need recipes.
These will be your fast breakfast/pre-made meal stuff.
I divide my shopping lists into: Produce, Meats, Fridge/Frozen, Spices and Shelved. So this might look like:
2. Pick out some easy recipes.
We’ll do 3, just to see how this looks. Depending on how many dinners youre making at home/storage space/etc, you may have more or less. There’s tons of recipe websites out there. They are free.
Once you’ve been cooking a while, you’ll find that you have lots of recipes you want to repeat. I recommend printing these out.
3. Ok, so now, double check the serving sizes on your recipes and add the ingredients to your shopping list, one recipe at a time.
4. The next step is to take this list into your kitchen. Is there anything you already have and don’t need?
So I already have salsa, soy sauce, canola oil, and cheddar cheese. Don’t need to rebuy those!
5. Now you can print this out and go shopping.
Because we’ve arranged the list this way, you should encounter the items you need roughly in order. Just check them off when you find them.
Just to add to this a little.
Stuff to always have in your kitchen:
– Salt
-Pepper
-Red pepper flakes
– Rice. Dry rice is magical. Easy, cheap, and calorie dense.
– Canned chicken/veggie stock (use it to make your rice. I’m not kidding)
– Boxed stuffing, mashed potatoes, canned green beans. These are easy sides that take 0 time and effort and can really fill out a meal.
-I honestly really recommend Slim Fast shakes or similar meal replacement shakes. They often last forever, are really easy on your stomach if you are sick, and have enough calories to make up a meal if you just don’t have the time/energy to make something bigger. The vanilla ones are the best if you ask me.
Some additional pantry stables
-vegetable oil (very useful if you are cooking things in a skillet or don’t have nonstick baking pans)
-beans (last for a long time, very cheap, and you can easily make rice and beans)
Good additions!
Also Meals you can generally make with stuff you have laying around:
Stir Fry: Any veggies you have (Fresh is best. frozen is fine. Canned generally works if you drain and rinse them first.) oil + soy sauce over rice.
Quesadilla: Tortillas + Cheese of some kind + any filling that might be good? (salsa, bell peppers, beans)
Ramen+: Ramen noodles + an egg (I like it fried) + a slice of lunch meat ham or turkey + red peper flakes or hot sauce
Pasta time: whatever pasta you have + butter or olive oil + red ppeper flakes + salt. Add sausage or veggies if you have them.
Honestly fried egg + anything is pretty good. Fried egg + avacado? Perfect. Dash some hot sauce on and you’re perfect-er. Fried egg + rice: excellent. Add soy sauce. Fried egg + toast is great. Fried egg and cheese? Lazy omlet. I’d add salsa. Fried egg and refried beans? Throw that on a tortilla. Fried eggs level up anything.
Planning out your meals like above is generally cheaper than having lots of just generally usable stuff on hand (especially fresh veggies. If I don’t have a plan for them, they tend to go bad.) But it doesn’t hurt to have some “oh crap I don’t have time to go shopping, what is in my pantry” fallbacks. Don’t starve. Please don’t starve.
In Small Town USA, a Dragon is asking the cute Orc Jock to prom. The nerdy Undead has been practicing their magic all month in preparation for the big show, and an Elf has just finished tuning up their hot rod, in time for the big race.
And somewhere in the town, their best friend was just murdered.
Americana is a new TTRPG by Sandy Pug Games set in a radically inclusive, magical 1950s. Players build their own incredible town, populate it with gangs and hangouts, then investigate the murder of their best friend in a collaborative, collective storytelling system designed to place narrative and relationships front and center.
Do you like Tabletop RPGs? Murder Mysteries? The 50s aesthetic but explicitly without the baked-in institutional racism that most 50s-themed media likes to handwave as “that’s just how it was?” Then BOY HOWDY does Sandy Pug Games have a game for you!
I’m doing a lot of the art for this awesome game and I’m super excited that it’s finally announced because Oooh man it’s been hard sitting on the content for this one. Please check it out! The KS deadline is November 1st, 10AM EST.
If you’re interested in following along with the game and playtest reviews, you can find @SandyPugGames on Twitter, as well as me at @AndiSupreme where I’ll be posting more WIPs, finished art, and doodles as we go. Also feel free to check out the Americana-inspired audio drama “Tom’s Dead” pilot episodeto get a taste for the atmosphere of the game!
an incomplete list of unsettling short stories I read in textbooks
the scarlet ibis
marigolds
the diamond necklace
the monkey’s paw
the open boat
the lady and the tiger
the minister’s black veil
an occurrence at owl creek bridge
a rose for emily
(I found that one by googling “short story corpse in the house,” first result)
the cask of amontillado
the yellow wallpaper
the most dangerous game
a good man is hard to find
some are well-known, some obscure, some I enjoy as an adult, all made me uncomfortable between the ages of 11-15
add your own weird shit, I wanna be literary and disturbed
The Tell-Tale Heart, The Gift of the Magi, The Celebrated Jumping Frog of Calavaras County, Thank You Ma’am
the box social by james reaney. i remember we all had to silently read it in class, and you would hear the moment everyone reached the Part because some people would audibly go “what”
wHat did I just put my eyes on
“The Veldt” by Ray Bradbury
Not quite a short story, but read in class: “The Monsters are Due on Maple Street” from The Twilight Zone
Harrison Bergeron, Cat and the Coffee Drinkers
“Where are you going and where have you been” by Joyce carol oates
“The Pedestrian” by Ray Bradbury
the lottery by shirley jackson
i can’t believe Roald Dahl’s “The Landlady” wasn’t already mentioned
and also it’s not so much unsettling as more absurdist but “The Leader” by Eugene Ionesco definitely made me go wtf
Ett halvt ark papper. I cried so much.
Ночь у мазара, А. Шалимов
A Sound of Thunder by Ray Bradbury
I Have no Mouth, and I Must Scream by Harlan Ellison
The Lottery by Shirley Jackson
All Summer in a Day by Ray Bradbury
Some of Us Had Been Threatening Our Friend Colby, by Donald Barthelme
I read Ray Bradbury’s “All Summer In A Day” in seventh grade (it wasn’t assigned, I was just going through my textbook for new stuff to read) and as a bullied kid with SAD, it Fucked Me Up.
An Ordinary Day with Peanuts, by Shirley Jackson
Eh, this was more like community college, but The Star by Arthur C. Clarke
Lamb to the Slaughter by Roald Dahl
and this story that I can’t remember the name of and can’t find, though it might be by O. Henry? it’s about a bunch of demons who want to stop Santa Claus from going through with Christmas, and he must travel through the mountains they inhabit to escape their vices? (good christ I can’t remember the name for the life of me)
Ok but the laughing man and a good day for bananafish but j.d. Salinger
The City (195) Ray Bradbury. An intense commentary on colonialism and space exploration. I read it for a sci fi survey class.
Another short story I read in that sci fi class was Vaster than Empires and More Slow (1971) by Ursula K. Le Guin. A commentary on humanity and how human we believe ourselves to be. Also, an interesting commentary on mental health.
In the Woods Beneath the Cherry Blossoms in Full Bloom, written in 1947 by Ango Sakaguchi. It made my skin crawl the first time I read it.
I didn’t read it in a text book, but “I Have No Mouth, and I Must Scream” haunted me for life.
i scrolled straight to the bottom of this post to reblog it and save it for later, but i cannot BELIEVE with so many replies, “I Have No Mouth and I Must Scream” is the bottom-most addition
y’all didn’t even add a tutorial of how to do this so imma put one right here
1. type in cmd.exe into your windows search and right click on Command Promt search result and select “Run as Administator”. 2. Type/Copypase in
net.exe stop “Windows Search” and make sure Windows Search is in quotations. It should then respond saying “The Windows Search service is stopping” and then tell you it’s stopped.
This is only a temp fix though, if you want it switched off permanently then do THIS:
1. Press the Windows key + R at the same time and type in services.msc.
2. Scroll until you find Windows Search and double click it to enter its Properties window.
3. Change the Startup type to Disabled. Apply this change and you can exit out.
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